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Funeral Form - Baptized Child

VISITATION

While the funeral home is the usual place for visitation, it is possible to have the visitation in the Parish Center. Previously scheduled events may exclude this as a possibility. The parish secretary will check availability if the family makes this request. The visitation is the appropriate place for eulogies.

PROGRAMS

If you would like to create your own program, a template is provided online at www.stgertrude.org. Once your program is completed, you should email the file to parishoffice@stgertrude.org by 5:00 p.m. at the latest the day before the funeral, so that the celebrant can review it for you. (St. Gertrude does not provide copies of your program; the family is responsible for making the copies and bringing them to the Mass for distribution.)

SPOKEN REMEMBRANCE OF FAITH BY A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER
It is recommended that family members use the time at the visitation and/or at the reception following the funeral Mass to allow all interested friends and relatives to speak their remembrances publicly to all visitors in attendance. The General Instruction of the Roman Missal (GIRM 382) does not allow eulogies during the Mass. However, the Archdiocese of Cincinnati does allow a “Spoken Remembrance of Faith” to be done before or after the funeral rite. (Preparing Funeral Liturgies, 18; cf. Order of Christian Funerals #170), repeating that there is not to be a eulogy during the funeral. The guidelines at St. Gertrude’s for a Spoken Remembrance of Faith are as follows:

  • Very brief (less than 5 minutes: one typed page or less). This Spoken Remembrance of Faith will take place just before the beginning of the funeral rite. Everyone will proceed down the aisle; the casket/urn with cremated remains will be placed in front of the altar; all will be seated, and the designated person will be acknowledged by the celebrant. After the very brief Spoken Remembrance of Faith is completed, the celebrant will gather the immediate family at the casket/urn for the Introductory Rites of the Funeral Mass. Mass will not be interrupted at any time for a Spoken Remembrance of Faith.
  • Clearly, the Spoken Remembrance of Faith is not a eulogy (a eulogy praises the deceased’s laudatory attributes and achievements). Eulogies may be done only at the time of visitation or at the reception following the funeral Mass.
  • A Spoken Remembrance of Faith demonstrates how the faith life of the deceased was portrayed in their lived experience, and speaks to the Christ-like attitudes/values that were important in the life of the deceased. Please do not make any references to the deceased being in heaven. This is presumptuous on our part, and if this were definite or absolute and certain, there would be no reason for a funeral Mass which primary purpose is to pray for the soul of the deceased to reach heaven.
  • A copy of the Spoken Remembrance of Faith text must be provided to the celebrant by 5:00 p.m. at the latest the day before the funeral. If a text is not submitted by this time, a Spoken Remembrance of Faith will not be allowed.
  • If the family chooses to have a Spoken Remembrance of Faith, the Funeral Mass will begin at 9:30am. If the family will not have a Spoken Remembrance of Faith the funeral Mass will begin at 10am.

MUSICIANS

We have an organist and volunteer Resurrection Choir available. If you have any other plans, please notify the planner as soon as possible.

RECEPTION AFTER THE FUNERAL

The Helping Hands Committee works with the Bereavement Ministry to assist you at this time. If space is available in the Parish Center, you may invite your family and friends to gather there after the funeral or burial. Contact the Priory or your bereavement volunteer to inquire about availability of the Parish Center as soon as possible. We usually are able to have some parishioners serve and clean up afterwards. If you let us know early enough, we can usually provide paper products, side dishes, desserts and drinks; or if you prefer – cookies, punch and coffee.

If you decide on a meal, we ask that the family or friends provide meat trays, condiments, and bread / buns (prepared sandwiches are suggested and often easiest at the reception buffet line). If you plan to include any alcohol at the reception (beer, wine, etc.), those selections are permitted but must be provided by the family. When family and friends are bringing additional food or drink items, it is most helpful to coordinate / communicate the details to the Helping Hands Coordinator, Tish Shefcik at 513-560-2820 or tishshefcik@gmail.com

In the event that you would like to use the Parish Center, but are providing all your own food and servers, we ask that you kindly leave the kitchen in good order afterwards.

A Catechism on Cremation
On March 21, 1997, the National Conference of Catholic Bishops in the United States was granted an indult from the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Disciple of the Sacraments and the Supreme Pontiff Pope John Paul II, for the funeral rites in the presence of the cremated remains of the deceased. The faithful are granted the full rites of Christian burial when a family decides to have their loved ones cremated. In the Order of Christian Funerals with Cremation Rites there are important clarifications for the Christian faithful concerning cremation. Here are some directives from the Cremation Appendix:

Although cremation is now permitted by the Church, it does not enjoy the same value as burial of the body. The Church clearly prefers and urges that the body of the deceased be present for the funeral rites, since the presence of the human body better expresses the values which the Church affirms in those rites.

Sometimes, however, it is not possible for the body to be present for the Funeral Mass. When extraordinary circumstances make the cremation of a body the only feasible choice, pastoral sensitivity must be exercised by priests, deacons, and others who minister to the family of the deceased. When the choice has been made to cremate a body, it is recommended that the cremation take place after the Funeral Liturgy.

The cremated remains of a body should be treated with the same respect given to the human body from which they come. This includes the use of a worthy vessel to contain the ashes, the manner in which they are carried, the care and attention to appropriate placement and transport, and final disposition. The cremated remains should be buried in a grave or entombed in a mausoleum or columbarium. The practice of scattering cremated remains on the sea, from the air, or on the ground, or keeping cremated remains in the home of a relative or friend of the deceased are not the reverent disposition that the Church requires.

It is very important that the Catholic faithful understand all the points above:

  • The Church still prefers the burial of the body over cremation.
  • It is recommended that cremation should take place after the funeral Mass. Only under “extraordinary circumstances” should cremation take place before the funeral Mass.
  • Plans should be made for the cremated remains to be buried in a grave in a reasonable amount of time if the interment does not take place immediately after the Mass.
  • Scattering cremated remains is not reverent disposition.
  • The Church requires that the cremated remains be interred.

The Church recognizes the importance of laying our loves ones to rest, not only because they are dust and unto dust they should return, but also because the surviving family needs closure to their grieving. Keeping the cremated remains poses a real burden to this needed closure in our lives.
Notes: These readings listed in the booklet and in the online form are the readings provided by the Church for funerals. Readings outside of this list are strongly discouraged; other passages allowed only with prior permission of funeral celebrant and pastor and must be from a translation approved by the Church for liturgical use.

Some practical help for encouraging spoken remembrances and prepared eulogies at the wake:

Here is a suggested format for inviting people to take the opportunity at the wake to stand up in front of those present at the funeral home and have the chance to tell their story(s), how they were deeply touched by their deceased friend or relative, beautiful memories, etc.

This short introduction could be spoken during the wake by the funeral director: “Thank you for coming, everyone…we would like to take this opportunity to let interested friends and relatives speak their remembrances to all those here present at the funeral home…I know that ‘Mary’ wants to tell you about her ‘Aunt Sally’s’ love for ‘dancing’ and she has a wonderful story to share with all of you about it…” [or whatever you have shared with the funeral director ahead of time, to get the ball
rolling with the first person]…then after ‘Mary’ is finished… “is there anyone else who would like to share a story?”

Often, if you want to invite folks to participate, it is best to start with an upbeat story, and then if someone has a long, prepared eulogy, then they can follow some of the other people who have shared their shorter, light-hearted memories.

If you don’t want to invite just anyone to have the option of speaking, then the funeral director can just introduce the person(s) who have prepared eulogy(s) to give.

How beautiful it can be to host this at the funeral home, a much less formal atmosphere for this type sharing, as compared to being limited to one person’s spoken remembrance during Mass.

If your reception following Mass and interment is held at St. Gertrude’s, a microphone and podium can be provided for this purpose, if desired.

Funeral Liturgy Planning Sheet
Decease Information
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Family Contact
Funeral Home Reception
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Post Funeral Reception

If Yes, Contact Suzy Quinn 513 561 5954 parishoffice@stgertrude.org for space availability.

Contact Tish Shefcik: 513-560-2820 tishshefcik@gmail.com

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